Mother’s Day Tribute: A Critical Doer Tip Of The Hat To Toya Graham

A Critical Doer controls what is theirs to control 


On Mother’s Day, it’s only fitting that a tip of the hat goes to a mom who displayed a Critical doer trait and reminded us all what love for a son is truly about.

This picture is the most iconic image of the recent unrest in Baltimore.  The New York Post cover is entertaining but also enlightening.

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A Critical Doer controls what is theirs to control…Toya Graham believes this includes her son.  When Toya learned this incident had been captured on video and was gaining national attention, her only concern was what her pastor would think.

Toya showed our nation the difference between leadership and “likership”…doing what is right versus what is popular.  She didn’t look to anyone else to take action and keep her son out of serious trouble that could alter his future.  She loves her son…and took swift action to show it.

Michael Graham is a fortunate young man to have a strong mom like Toya in his life.  Michael will certainly receive a lot of harassment from his neighborhood friends over his mom taking charge in front of the entire nation.  He also went to sleep in his own bed that night and woke up with the same chance for a bright future that he had the previous day.  We can only hope one day that we see Michael do something truly significant with his life and when he does, attribute it all to the day his mom was willing to do whatever it took to keep him safe…and loved.

Your challenge today is twofold.  If you haven’t reached out to your mother yet and said thank you for love that was more than you deserve…get moving and get it done.  Second, Toya’s example to reflect on a situation at home or work where you may have been practicing likership rather than leadership.  If you are, you’re not controlling what’s yours to control.  Have strength of character, just like Toya Graham, to do the right thing regardless of scrutiny.  If you do, you’ll understand love and respect on a greater level…as well as accomplish more with loyal followers.  It’s what a Critical Doer would…do!

To Toya Graham, this Critical Doer tip of the hat on Mother’s Day is for you.  To all moms everywhere…thank you, and happy Mother’s Day.



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Updated: May 10, 2015 — 10:13 pm